The next step is mindset, without which every other step will fall by the wayside and old habits will rear their annoying heads again! The nightly news… you can choose to watch the doom and gloom of all the world's disasters and the increase in crime and decline of respect in society in general… or you can choose to read an inspiring book instead, perhaps an autobiography, self development classic or even a romance novel! So why not change within your current circumstances?

For example, you may be very motivated and choosing to listen to motivational speakers, relaxing music and meditations, however if your teenage son is into thrash metal or hip hop music where everything is about hating women, then your peace will be compromised. Sometimes the people closest to us do not want us to change, as they are comfortable with their life at the moment. Just as young children can be just happy. Choose to be open to all life's wonderful blessings today!

Even with the best of intentions, they may become dream stealers, putting down your efforts for genuine change in your life. Now I am not advocating you run away for six months on a spiritual sojourn as you are not an island and will come back into living your life, working to pay your bills, and be in relationship with friends and family. You too can choose to be…Remember the film 'Life Is Beautiful' written about the father and son in the Nazi prison camp in World War II.

If someone is being negative, while still somehow showing you care, let them know gently that you are not going to dwell on the negative but choose to see the positive. If you have not seen it, check out the Loveawake dating blog. We can all be moody, however we can also choose not to dwell but to let the sad, angry or disappointed feelings pass, then get on with living life to the full.